As we shift into this collective awakening, it means that people are beginning to see clearly all of the suffering that has existed in their midst all along. While life went about "same as usual" in spite of not acknowledging (many times being the cause of suffering/gas lighting/defensive reasoning) and not fighting to stop this evil.
Awakening is wanting to take a proactive way to be part of the solution of eliminating other's suffering instead of being the creators of suffering.
The majority of civilizations have been anchored and created from taking resources from each other and whomever exerts the most violence gets domination over another.
Binary thinking needs to be shelved.
Our racist systems created a false narrative and hierarchy based on created binaries. Example, males throughout history have been allowed to dominate females. Whites dominate non whites. Humans dominate other species. Insert whatever group and you have a caste system with a created false narrative. Good or bad is another example.
Some people rationalize that to be a klu klux klansmen is the only way evil manifests as racism. So that will absolve most microaggressions steeped in white supremacy behavior because one thinks of themselves in binary good versus evil way.
So if we eliminate this binary thinking then one can begin to see how many interactions are actually very harmful and participatory of the very paradgim we say we fight against.
Think of ways that you have caused harm and then take ownership to change. This means action bases. See the behaviors you have participated in then apologize, make amends and don't do it again.
I had an individual who constantly engaged in microaggressions and made racist/ableist comments when I would ask questions to invite curiosity in this type of harmful interaction would use a pattern of wanting to reason and logic that it was perfectly alright what they had done or blame someone else or something else. Sometimes it would be as if they would try to talk so much to confuse me. I realized through my studies this was a deeper rooted issue.
Eventually I became more grounded in being able to address these harmful moments to address the conflict and I was astounded at how their apology was about making excuses. Going through their personal history of hurts. Sometimes they would resort to crying, again re-centering the conversation around their hurt.
This is a manifestation of white fragility. Not having the emotional container to work with conflict specifically conflict they inflict because of unhealthy feelings and then the moment the conflict is named.
Then at that point even though I had been the person who received the harm now I found myself to be emotionally bullied even further having to babysit and be present to this person's suffering again asking me to prioritize their well being.
Soon as the tears had been dried they would promise to not do it again or justify how they have been socialized in this system so what were they expected to do? And if I was able to see with clarity where was my compassion? In other words how dare I a person of color ask for healthy boundaries? Can you see they patter again of white supremacy rearing it's face?
Later that day or the next with the promises of awareness invoked they would engage in another harmful conversation/behavior.
That's not genuine change.
For white people we know how this country was founded. Your skin color has provided you certain benefits whether you use them or not.
Part of your work is to either use mindfulness, ethics, spiritual practice to begin to see when you begin to act competitive, make passive aggressive comments (those are considered microaggressions) emotionally mistreat yourselves or others (this includes policing hence why the terminology of Karen's derived or Amy Cooper making bullying threats) impose self harm of perfectionism and then want to bully everyone around you to be the same. The socialization of Whiteness as I learned has brought about a neurosis of the soul.
When you utilize spiritual practice/ethics/ mindfulness with the resources of wanting to learn and dismantle change is possible. If you really want to change then you will engage in difficult conversations, education, having teachers/coaches, therapy to do this work.
Your soul will expand, your personal suffering will begin to shift as you begin your healing work. Wounded people wound others.
Being the dominant group inflicting violence on others known or not know purposely know has hurt and brought huge suffering to everyone in this world.
For my Black and Brown family our healing is about erasing the false narratives. Making peace for our ancestors, healthy boundaries, finding our voice and speaking truth to power. It also means healing work on our auric fields our patterns that have been created to keep ourselves safe. Much deep work in loving ourselves. Having great joy in our loving communities which is something that has never been taking from us. Our connection to our beautiful bodies. Our connection to sacred embodiment.
But we all are being called to do deep healing work now. This old world is falling away. Do you want to stay on the shoreline for fear of the monsters in the water? Do you wish to stay anchored to this old world because you think the world is flat and you will fall off?
Or do you want to expand your soul to new horizons so you can become free?
Noone is free until we are all free. ✊🦋
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